Caregiving: Dave, The Caregiver’s Caregiver
My latest book that I am now working on is titled: “It’s My Life TOO! When To Say Yes, When To Say No In Long-Term Caregiving” It is designed to teach caregivers who are taking care of their loved ones (due to an illness or disability) how to take care of themselves FIRST. If they don’t learn this, they will likely suffer burnout and become as helpless as the person they are caring for.
Why am I so qualified to be “The Caregiver’s Caregiver” you might ask? Well, as I have mentioned, I am a caregiver to my wife since 1996, when she suffered a massive stroke for no apparent reason. As a result, she lost her speech and has not spoken in sentences since. She is also paralyzed on the right side of her body. After a two year grieving period, she came to the realization that she had to “play the cards that she was dealt,” and so she decided to reinvent herself.
She now makes us normal people look like whiners and complainers. She continues to do almost everything she did before her stroke, but in essence, she does it with one arm and one leg tied behind her back, and she might as well have duct tape over her mouth since she cannot speak, yet she does all of this with her amazing positive attitude. The mission of my third book is to help caregivers avoid burnout & to survive the grief process, since that is what I have been doing since 1996.
Also, you may want to check out my radio show on Tuesdays at noon, PST, which is geared for caregivers and their special needs of avoiding burnout and surviving grief. You will find our radio show interviews, video trailers, and articles on this website very interesting and helpful as well. Thank you for visiting. Continue to check out all that we offer caregivers and those who are grieving on this informative and valuable website.
Meet The Amazing Charlene
For those of you that have not had the privelige of meeting the amazing, “Queen Charlene”, here is a 7 minute introduction video. Knowing her will change your life forever. You have been warned. lol
In 1996, my wife, Charlene, was a healthy, normal house-wife and mother of 3 who loved to cook, entertain, and travel the world. But all that changed when she suffered a massive stroke that left her severely speech impaired, and paralyzed on her right side. Her first 2 years were the toughest.
Having to deal with the grief process was not easy for her, or her loved ones.There was a lot of anger, directed mostly at the ones who loved her, then depression…then finally, acceptance. She lost everything that was dear to her; her big, beautiful home, her new car, her relationship with her grand-daughter, and most of her friends. Since 1998, she began to rekindle her faith in God that He is, and has always been in control of her situation.
She is now fully comfortable with the idea of why God would allow such an experience in her life, since she acknowledges that much good has come about from it. She has a different, more wonderful perspective on things now than she once did. Today, she is happy, and accepting of her situation, and is OK if she never regains the use of her limbs and speech again. Her future and purpose are in God’s hands, and is excited to be a part of His Master Plan to help people through this.
A Cross Between Martha Stewart & Wonder Woman
Charlene’s story is truly amazing, and very encouraging to everyone. All who meet her instantly fall in love with her. She has been described as a cross between Martha Stewart and Wonder Woman before her stroke, and it is not uncommon for some who meet her to cry — not tears of pity — but tears of joy and amazement for her attitude and ability despite her disability. Her way of communicating without words is very interesting and very entertaining to experience.
She is also a woman of great faith. At times, we all wonder how we would respond, if a similar circumstance were to happen to us, or to one of our family. She has been non-verbal and paralyzed on one side since September, 1996 as a result of an unexpected, and unexplained stroke.
You truly will be amazed at Charlene’s great positive attitude, which tends to keep our own problems in their proper perspective. Charlene’s story is now an encouraging testimony that inspires anyone who hears it. Our book, “One Arm One Leg IOO Words” is available in paperback and e-book. Order your copy now by clicking the “Buy Now” button on the Home, or the Books – Articles page of this website.
The American Stroke Association is excited about the prospects of her story getting out to the masses as an educational tool and an encouraging testimony. Check out my latest article about “Surviving with a Positive Attitude” in the January/February issue of Stroke Connection Magazine.
About Our Faith
Join David and Charlene Nassaney as they are interviewed on The Grace & Hope Television Program on the Alkezara Television Network as they share their story of how they overcame very difficult circumstances in their lives through faith in God. (90 min.)